Grief is not a topic that’s easily addressed. We’ve all experienced it in one form or another, whether it’s losing a beloved person in your life or experiencing a life change that completely rocked your world. Whatever type of grief you’ve experienced is uniquely your own, and in many ways, sitting in it can be incredibly lonely, a hole in your world and heart that feels as though you’ve lost a piece of yourself.
Today our article is specifically about the loss a dog parent experiences. My name is Stacy, and I contribute to the Happy Hound blog. As an avid dog lover, writing about all things dogs brings me the greatest joy. This month, I’m getting a little more personal because, coincidentally, as life would have it, Suzanne, owner of Happy Hound, and I both recently experienced the loss of our furry loved ones.
Much like any tragic event, there is often a gift you have to find in order to move through it. For me, that gift has been having Suzanne who knows this pain. There’s comfort in having someone who can relate to your sadness.
If you know this pain, you’re not alone.
If you don’t yet, this is how love leaves a mark…forever.

Grief in the Small Moments
My house is quiet now. I no longer hear the tap of Vito’s paws on our hardwood floors. Vito was a 13-year-old Frenchie, and his grunts and snores used to echo through our house. Over the years, it became our “white noise.” There are moments when my body forgets before my heart does. I still expect him to greet me enthusiastically at the door, or when it’s dinner time, I instinctively look over to see if he’s sitting by his bowl, waiting for a taste of whatever we’re eating. He watched our boys grow from toddlers into teenagers, quietly present for all the moments in between. He took care of us when we were sad and celebrated our happiness. He tilted his head in a way that meant he was listening. He was a coveted and cherished family member. And for these reasons and so many more, this is why it feels as though our world shifted off its axis.
And the thing about grief-it’s like a gut punch. It catches you off guard when you least expect it. I recently saw a dog who looked like Vito, and suddenly all my emotions flooded to the surface. It was uncontrollable, out of nowhere, and instantly brought me back to my saddest place.
Grief arrives in these small, ordinary moments. A steady reminder of how deeply he was intertwined in our family’s daily, hourly routines. We had prepared ourselves for this moment, but preparation doesn’t change the feeling of being shattered and heartbroken.
Grief is the Echo of a Love That Mattered
Dogs witness so many facets of our lives. They are a constant. They know the shape of our lives without ever needing words. Dogs hold space for us in ways few others do, they see us at our best and our worst, and their loyalty is unwavering.
They are our comfort and such a great source of happiness. When we are unexpectedly tossed into grief it feels like a piece of our heart is gone forever. Healing feels impossible, but we do begin to find peace. And part of that is knowing that we loved are furry besties with all our hearts.
What I Wish Someone Had Told Me
Time heals, we know this logically, but it’s crazy how hard it is for your heart to accept that truth.
If you’ve lost a dog, please know you don’t have to minimize your pain or justify it to anyone. There is no timeline you’re failing to meet, no point where it’s suddenly “time to move on.” Your dog mattered. The bond you shared was real. Missing them fiercely or feeling the ache long after others expect you to be “okay” are expressions of love, not weakness.
You have permission to grieve in the way that feels right to you. And as time goes on (and remember it’s your timeline) you may begin to look back on all the special memories with a little more softness. There will be fond thoughts that suddenly put a smile on your face as you reminisce or retell those funny stories of your loved one. You will be able to start saying “Remember when….”
And for those who haven’t yet experienced this kind of loss, this is not meant as a warning. It’s an invitation. An invitation to notice the quiet moments now. The way your dog follows you from room to room for no reason other than wanting to be near you. Loving deeply always carries the risk of grief, but it also gives life meaning and connection that nothing else quite replaces. One day, these ordinary moments will become your most happy, sacred memories.
Grief, I’m learning, is not something to get through or past. It’s something we carry because the love we felt came first. Our dogs change us. They teach us about presence, devotion, and unconditional joy. When they leave, that love doesn’t disappear. I have found it settles into us, shaping who we are and how we love going forward. And in that way, they are never really gone.
What Helps Move With Grief (Not Past It)
There’s no right way to grieve, but these are some gentle practices that can help:
- Small Rituals
Place a picture of them in a special place. Light a candle on meaningful dates. Talk to them. Rituals give grief a place to land.
- Share stories
Talk about the funny moments, the quirks. Saying “Remember when…” keeps their spirit present and honored. - Keepsakes
Their collar, a photo, a paw print, or a favorite toy can be physical reminders that provide comfort. - It’s ok to cry
There’s no such thing as “regressing.” Tears are not setbacks, they are releases. - Write them a letter
Expressing your thoughts, what you miss, your love for them is a helpful release. - Honor the bond through action
Donate in their name. Volunteer. Support a rescue. Pay your love forward. - Talk to people who understand
Not everyone will. Find the ones who do, those who won’t rush you or minimize the loss. - Let joy return
Smiling again doesn’t mean forgetting. Joy and grief are allowed to coexist.
A Special Tribute to Chad
Chad unexpectedly passed away on a Saturday night after a rapidly moving pneumonia swept through his body faster than it could be fought.
Suzanne found Chad on a Dalmatian rescue site, and he was first met on March 23. He had lived his life as a backyard-only dog, a stud dog (for the lucky ladies), and had never known life inside a home. He had never eaten quality food, and several of his teeth were broken. At that first meeting, Chad didn’t make eye contact, and there was no immediate connection.
And yet, despite that, he lingered in Suzanne’s mind long after the meeting ended.
On March 26, Suzanne brought Chad home. During his time with her, he learned how to be a companion. He was always a gentleman and discovered that eye contact meant love. He didn’t understand kisses at first, but he learned to tolerate them. He went from never wagging at all to full-body, joyful wagging and his signature kitchen “happy dance.”
Chad transformed into a beautiful soul. With his antics and unmistakable personality, he quickly became a source of inspiration especially for Suzanne’s music. He would wander into the studio, quietly becoming part of the creative process. And now, he lives on as the face of that music.

Final Thoughts
Suzanne shared a book with me that has been incredibly helpful during this time. Its message applies to both dogs and humans, and I’ve included the link here.
When someone you love is grieving, it’s important to acknowledge it. Even though it can hurt to hear their name, most of us want our loved ones to be remembered. We appreciate when people ask how we’re doing because it helps us feel seen, loved, and supported.
Grief is an uncomfortable topic. It can feel awkward to address something so painful, or to worry that you might make someone feel worse. But please don’t avoid it—continue to check in, not just in the immediate days after a loss, but weeks and even months later. The grief doesn’t disappear. It quietly lives within us.
A simple acknowledgment of an important date, asking how someone is doing, or sharing a memory can mean more than you realize. Those small gestures truly mean the world to someone who is grieving.
With love, and the lingering presence of grief,
Your Friends at Happy Hound



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